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    Saying No, Getting to YES: A Rubric for
    Defining Boundaries and Priorities in Your Life


State your issue or Task:  

Directions: Trust your instincts. Go along each row, and quickly choose the column that feels right for that row. Assign that box 1- 5 pts, based on strength of your feeling and importance of the category in your life. If you're torn, go with yellow or split points between boxes.

When done, total each column's points, determining to STOP, GO or proceed with caution - now knowing the balance of value, risk & cost.
CATEGORY
RED (up to 5 pts)
YELLOW (up to 5 pts)
GREEN (up to 5 pts)
Physical Well Being
No! May cause some harm (sleep, endurance, exercise, health, etc)
Would not significantly harm, may help my physical state.
Yes! Will improve my physical well being..
Spiritual Well Being
No! May cause some harm or neglect of my spiritual path.
Would not significantly hurt, may help my spiritual path.
Yes! Will move me forward in my path.
Emotional Well Being
No! May cause some emotional harm (toxic people/ family/ identity...)
Would not significantly hurt, may help my emotional well being.
Yes! Will improve my emotional well being.
Enhances my Friendships
No! May cause harm or neglect to my friendships.
Would not significantly affect my friendships. May increase contacts.
Yes! Will improve my friendships and create opportunity for quality contact.
Enhances Long-Term Goals
No! May cause harm to my long-term strategies (focus or path)
Would not significantly hurt my long-term goals. May align with path.
Yes! Will move me forward on my long-term goals or path.
Improves Financial Health
No! May cause harm or risk to my financial plan. Significant risk here.
Would not hurt my financial health. May create opportunity with low risk.
Yes! Will move me forward on my long-term financial goals.
Pleasure/Leisure Factor
No! May cause harm or neglect of my own leisure time.
Would not significantly affect leisure opportunities. May provide new ones.
Yes! Will certainly create more pleasure in my life.
Related to my Passions
No! Is a deflection or sacrifice of my interests and passions.
Would not significantly affect the pursuit of my passions. May align.
Yes! Directly relates to what I love to do and what brings me joy.
Stress Factor
No! May bring significant stress or anxiety to my life.
Would not significantly be a cause of stress. May provide some release.
Yes! Would alleviate stress or anxiety in my life.
Column TOTAL
 
 
 

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